Sisterhood of Friends
May marks National Women’s Health Month, and I’m reflecting on one of the most significant contributors to my own well-being: the incredible sisterhood of friends who enrich my life. From monthly book club discussions to the friendly competition of weekly Mahjong games, the creative outlet of our group painting class, the comfort of shared prayers at our local religious events, and the synergy of our work collaborations, these women form an invaluable tapestry of support.
Recently, I had the profound joy of celebrating my dear friend’s 90th birthday. Surrounded by her loving children, grandchildren, and many friends at a beautiful luncheon, it was a powerful testament to a life well-lived. I felt deeply honored to witness the tributes and a moving video that chronicled her remarkable journey as a social worker, devoted wife, mother, and cherished Nana.
My connection with this extraordinary woman spans many years. Our initial interactions, focused on personal growth and development, were deeply meaningful. While the demands of raising young families and pursuing our careers temporarily shifted our focus, our reconnection at our synagogue reignited a powerful bond of sisterhood and shared spirituality. I am eternally grateful for her nurturing presence in my life.
Appreciate Friendships
Across different phases of my journey, some of my female friendships have stood the test of time for four or even five decades,. Others, although of shorter duration, are no less significant. Whether we connect weekly or monthly, or less frequently, a strong thread of connection weaves through these relationships.
Reflecting on this abundance of meaningful female friendships, I recognize it’s not simply chance. It’s the result of my conscious desire and intention, coupled with the reciprocal willingness of my friends to cultivate and nurture these lasting bonds. While “intention” might sound like work, the outcome is pure gratitude and joy. Friendships, like a garden, thrive with loving care, nourishment, and attention.
Navigating the ebbs and flows of life can sometimes make maintaining relationships challenging. Friends may find themselves in different life stages or emotional spaces. I’ve experienced people entering my life for brief but impactful periods. I’ve learned to appreciate those connections for what they were, understanding that differing personalities and values don’t always lead to lifelong bonds.
There is a unique beauty in friendships where shared experiences, upbringing, and interests converge, creating a powerful sense of support and sisterhood that endures life’s inevitable ups and downs.
Tapestry of Friends and Our Health
My husband and I often discuss the medical and sociological aspects of aging. Our professional and personal experiences consistently align with scientific findings. It’s increasingly evident that among the five elements we emphasize in our Power of 5 formula, strong social connections are perhaps the most powerful.
Dr. Robert Waldinger, director of the Harvard Study of Adult Development – the longest-running study of adult life – recently highlighted that the greatest predictor of longevity and health is “how connected you were to other people and particularly the warmth of your connection to other people.”
This research powerfully affirms what I’ve instinctively known and what I wholeheartedly encourage you to embrace: intentionally prioritize building and maintaining meaningful connections as a cornerstone of your longevity practice. In this spirit, I extend my warmest wishes for continued connection and friendship to my dear friend on her 90th birthday, and I eagerly anticipate celebrating her 100th!
This May, during National Women’s Health Month, I urge you to actively nurture your own sisterhood of friends and experience the profound benefits of connectivity.
To health, wellness, and longevity through sisterhood,
Melissa Bernstein, OT, FAOTA
Healthy Lifestyle Advocate
A human (Melissa Bernstein) generated this blog content with the polishing aid of artificial intelligence.
